Has this ever happened to you? You’re sitting in your pew at church waiting for Mass to begin, when “he” walks in and sits down in the pew right behind you. “He” (or “she”) could be anyone you are having a hard time with—a noisy neighbor, the parent of a child who was mean to your daughter last year, or just someone who sings too loud or whose political beliefs drive you crazy. Whatever the reason, there is a distance between yourself and him, and his presence makes you feel uncomfortable.